Men You Would Want to Avoid

Something happened today that got me into thinking about men. Over the years, through my relationships and interaction with them, I came up with a way to sort of organize the types of men you want to hang around with, and those types you wanna steer clear of. May it be romantically inclined, or otherwise.

The Over-The-Top Amplifier

He's the guy who would give you the stars and the moon, and would tell you everything he can think of just to get your pants off. I have met quite a few of these guys. He'd tell you how amazing your body looks like even if you are as fat as me, which is really, FAT (sexy chubby naman hahaha). He's the one who would say he loves you already and would love to spend the rest of his life with you, and all this on your first date. How to deflect his moves? Well for starters, never ever believe what a guy says especially if its all hyperbole, or in layman's term, full of sh*t. The ego loves being stroked, so just keep reminding yourself that it's still your first date. Hold off and don't be swept off your feet yet.

The Liar

This one is so easy to spot, but a huge percentage of women tend to miss it on the first round. If you have a gut feeling that he's lying about some of the things he is telling you, then believe that gut feeling. 90% of the time, it would say you're right. And it's a scientifically proven fact. I dated this guy who suddenly disappeared for a week. Even his family was looking for him. I knew right there that he was with someone else. He kept telling me he was with a friend, and the friend vouched for him, and was very good at all the detail. But something was amiss and being the sleuth that I am, I asked everyone, all our common friends since something was not right. It was very hard since I barely knew his friends because they lived so far from where I am. But the few weeks before that, I have been hearing snippets of conversation in the background about this certain girl. I was familiar with the girl since they go to school together. A friend knew where she lived, and you guessed it, my now ex was there.

The Wallflower

Have you ever been on a date where you notice that you have already said everything you can possibly say and all you get is a silent nod? You know he likes you a lot judging from past conversations .. but in person, he's a total dud. Well, in my experience, I give these types of guys sort of a 2nd chance. 1st dates are sometimes too nerve-wracking for some guys. But on your 2nd date and he's still a bore? I would definitely avoid them. I recently went out with this guy who had absolutely nothing to say. At the most, he would utter 2 syllables. So I thought, maybe he's nervous. So on the 2nd date I decided to spice it up with some alcoholic beverages. Even if we were totally wiped out, he bored me to death! Unless quiet is your type, I'd say avoid him.



That's all I can come up with for now. I'll think more about it while I'm in bed. This day was a total dud too. Found out stuff that left me loopy. Will talk about it some other time. Good vibes to you, person reading my blog.

-Carla

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